How to Talk so you will be Heard In the last 1-minute Relationship Snippet, we mentioned that listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely. Equally as important as good listening is how you speak and what you say. The following are some suggestions when talking… Try sharing without any shaming blaming or criticising. Try sharing using ‘I’ … Read More
Do You Worry? Try This!
Do You Worry? Try This! We have mentioned before in these 1-minute emotional well-being snippets that your mind is not always your friend! For example, many of us may think in the following ways: ‘what-if’ type worries, worst-case scenario thoughts, self-critical thoughts, ruminating & dwelling on the past etc. This is what most minds do which can lead … Read More
Is There More?
Is There More? As mentioned previously, listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely. A great question to ask your partner or spouse when you are listening, is ‘Is there more?’…and of course to really mean it! A very simple three-word question that shows you are interested and happy to listen to whatever else your other half … Read More
Growth Mindset
Growth Mindset Rather than becoming disheartened and sad because of one’s health difficulty, instead, try and accept the challenge as an opportunity. An opportunity to grow and harness all the wonderful inner resources that are beneath the surface. We all know of many stories of how adversity has led to greatness. Or those who may have hit ‘rock-bottom’ … Read More
The Wizard of Oz – Lessons for Life
The Wizard of Oz – Lessons for Life Remember the story of ‘The Wizard of Oz’… After a tornado hurls through Kansas, Dorothy and her dog, Toto, are swept away from their home to the colourful and vibrant Land of Oz. To find their way back home, they must embark on a journey to the Emerald … Read More
You are Living with an Iceberg
You are Living with an Iceberg Your spouse or partner is an iceberg! This does not mean that they are cold and unfeeling! Rather it refers to the fact that just as you only see 1/10th of an iceberg above the water, so too when looking at another human being, you only see the surface level. Just … Read More
The Story I Tell Myself
The Story I Tell Myself “He obviously does not care about me because if he did then he would contact me more often during the day”. This, or something similar, is a common frustration I may hear in my therapy office when working with a couple. At this point, I may pause the couple and invite the … Read More
The Magic Of Gratitude
The Magic Of Gratitude A book came out a few years ago, called ‘The Magic’ and it was all about Gratitude… …specifically, how Gratitude can have a magical effect on one’s life! If there is an opposite of gratitude, it might be complaining and negativity which as we all know, makes us feel worse. Gratitude is an … Read More
Detox Your Relationship – The Zero Negativity Challenge
Detox Your Relationship – The Zero Negativity Challenge As you probably know, negativity is corrosive to any relationship. Negativity is any transaction your partner experiences as a ‘put down’. If they say it was negative, then trust that for whatever reason it was negative! Don’t try and explain your actions but listen to what their experience is. Examples of … Read More
The Best Medicine… Lifestyle
The Best Medicine… Lifestyle What is the best medicine? Many believe it is a good simple healthy balanced lifestyle! If you get this right, then many physical and emotional difficulties are minimised! In fact, with most of my clients, before we even begin focusing on the specific problem they have, we make sure to do … Read More
