Are you a Tiger or a Tortoise! In most couple relationships, there is often a tiger and a tortoise! Very rarely do I come across two tortoises but on occasion, there may be two tigers. The partner who is ‘tiger-like’ tends to be the louder, noisier one who will get angry, shout, scream, nag, cling and blame when feeling … Read More
Valentine’s Day: A Happy or Sad Day? (Free Give-Away)
I hope Valentine’s Day is a happy day for you (& your partner or spouse if you are in a relationship)…but for many individuals and couples, it may not be. This is because…not everyone has a partner and even if you are in a relationship, it may not be as you wish it to be. … Read More
This is Real Listening!
This is Real Listening! It is real work to be a good listener. Most of us don’t know what true deep listening is about. It’s called Generative Listening. Just knowing what Generative Listening can give you a new perspective about what is possible in your life and relationships. There are Four Levels of Listening: Level 1: Habitual Listening where we are unable to hear … Read More
Six & Nine are Equal!
Six & Nine are Equal! This is one of my favourite activities I like to do with couples. I draw a large number ‘6’ (or ‘9’ depending on how you look at it!) on a piece of paper. I then hold it between the couple and ask them what they see…one says they see the number Six … Read More
Relationship Problems
The couples struggle is a common problem One of the most common enquiries I get is for couples counselling. It would appear that anxiety and relationship problems are affecting so many lives. These are the two problems that tend to show up most in my therapy office. This brief article will highlight some of the … Read More
Online couple therapy
This week is Marriage Week in the UK! Service your car? Why not service your relationship? Online couple therapy is that yearly service. Did you even know that there was such a thing as marriage week? I didn’t and found out by accident. I’m super excited to know that there is such a concept. Let … Read More
Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 3: Closing Exits (don’t leave it too late)
Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 3: Closing Exits (don’t leave it too late) Knowing that it is normal to experience hurt, pain & frustrations (the power struggle phase) in relationships, don’t just leave it but seek help early to be able to experience real love again. Last time we learnt that following the ‘honeymoon phase’ (phase … Read More
Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 2: Frustrations are normal!
DREAM RELATIONSHIPS Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 2: Frustrations are normal! Conflict, frustrations and differences in your relationship are normal! You are in stage two. Stay with them, listen, validate and feel more connected through them. Following the ‘honeymoon phase’ (phase 1) all couples will encounter the ‘power struggle’ (phase 2). This is normal and not a … Read More
Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 1: The Power of Appreciation
DREAM RELATIONSHIPS Relationship-Enhancing Ideas with Gary Janit Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 1: The Power of Appreciation. “In any relationship that matters to you, give praise and appreciation daily. Noticing and appreciating the good in others enhances the connection between you and creates a healthy relationship space”. Putting your appreciations of your spouse or partner into words … Read More
Frustrated in your relationship? Arguing more? Feeling let down?
You are probably in phase two and that is normal! What happened to my wonderful romantic relationship? What are we not getting on anymore? There is a reason for why there are more frustrations, hurt and pain in your relationship now… Relationships typically go through a number of phases. We all know about the … Read More