Relationship Reminders – Power of Appreciations
“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary”. Margaret Cousins finding a good relationship therapist or coach.
Negativity is toxic for any relationship. In order for your partner and your relationship to grow and thrive, aim to reduce negativity (shaming, blaming, criticism, put downs, stone walling, sarcasm etc) by following these two suggestions:
- Share what you appreciate about each other. Put into words what you value, love and cherish about your partner. Perhaps something about your partner’s personality, a physical characteristic, a caring behaviour they have done for you or perhaps something they always do but is taken for granted.
“One thing I really appreciate about you is…..”
“When I see that in you or when you do that for me it leaves me feeling….”
- Shift from judgement to curiosity and compassion. ‘What is going on for my partner? What are they thinking and feeling? What is their experience? How has their past perhaps influenced how they think, feel and behave?
- Focus on the good to make your relationship great!
- Be curious, understanding and compassionate
(All these ideas are based on Imago Relationship Therapy)
“Being told you are appreciated is one of the simplest and most uplifting things you can hear”
Gary Janit
I offer confidential individual psychotherapy & CBT as well as Imago Relationship Therapy in Manchester.
I am registered and accredited with the following professional organisations, abiding by their ethical codes:
BABCP (British Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Psychotherapies), UKCP (UK Council for Psychotherapy), HCPC (Health & Care Professions Council) as well being a graduate member of the BPS (British Psychological Society).
