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Its Not about The Nail – A lesson in listening!

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Good communication !

A real classic short humorous video that reminds us about the value of listening and good communication.

We very quickly go into problem solving mode but this short funny video reminds us about how much more valuable listening can be to others rather than problem solving.

Good communication skills can be learnt. The Imago Dialogue process is one of the best ways I know to really listen, validate and empathise with another person. See more about Imago Relationship Therapy at Relationship Counselling Manchester as well as  Imago Relationships International .

Remember to first seek to understand before trying to be heard. Perhaps try and practice really trying to be present and listen to those in your life.

Power of Appreciations

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Relationship Reminders – Power of Appreciations

“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary”. Margaret Cousins

Negativity is toxic for any relationship.  In order for your partner and your relationship to grow and thrive, aim to reduce negativity (shaming, blaming, criticism, put downs, stone walling, sarcasm etc) by following these two suggestions:

  1. Share what you appreciate about each other. Put into words what you value, love and cherish about your partner. Perhaps something about your partner’s personality, a physical characteristic, a caring behaviour they have done for you or perhaps something they always do but is taken for granted.

“One thing I really appreciate about you is…..”

“When I see that in you or when you do that for me it leaves me feeling….”

 

  1. Shift from judgement to curiosity and compassion. ‘What is going on for my partner? What are they thinking and feeling? What is their experience? How has their past perhaps influenced how they think, feel and behave?

 

  • Focus on the good to make your relationship great!
  • Be curious, understanding and compassionate

 

(All these ideas are based on Imago Relationship Therapy)

“Being told you are appreciated is one of the simplest and most uplifting things you can hear”

Gary Janit (Certified Imago Couple Therapist, Psychotherapist & CBT Therapist)

Please contact me on 07931 721 637 or gary@cbttherapymancheter.co.uk to

find out how Imago Relationship Therapy or a Couple Workshop can improve your relationship (A further two day couple workshop is scheduled for the next few months)

Visit www.cbttherapymanchester.co.uk

 

 

 

Gratitude

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The definition of Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.
Bringing gratitude into daily life can significantly enhance ones level of happiness, physical well being and relationships.

Read more about gratitude and some good articles:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/gratitude

Happy Birthday, Harville!

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Someone once said, “A good teacher can inspire hope,
ignite the imagination, and instill a love of learning.”

Harville Hendrix, founder of Imago Relationship Therapy, is more than a good teacher. He is passionate, devoted, and above all, committed to the cause. With all that he has done
for Imago Relationship International, we would like to commemorate him with this tribute in honor of his 80th birthday.

Happy Birthday, Harville!

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