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Pain & Discomfort are an opportunity for growth

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In relationships we may look at conflict, difference and pain as a ‘bad thing’ but actually frustrations and conflict can be an opportunity for growth…see the following quote below.

When couples can see frustrations as an opportunity for growth, the relationship takes a different journey…

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Watch this YouTube video of Abraham Twerski talking about how lobsters grow! And what we can learn from the discomfort that lobsters go through. Keep in mind the frustrations and pain we may feel in our relationships…Continue Reading

A must watch – The Power of Connection

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This will change the way you view life and the way you view your relationships.

Hedy Schleifer is a master Imago couple therapist who beautifully talks about the invisible ‘sacred space’ that exists between couples. If only we could all live according these ideas…honouring each other, respecting difference and living with an open heart.

The Miracle Morning

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Morning!

Have recently read a book called the ‘Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrod.

See https://www.miraclemorning.com/ for more details.

The book focuses on beginning your day in a way that shapes the rest of your day for maximum benefit and potential as well as using mornings to shape your future.

Hal emphasises 6 habits that he claims will transform your life before 8am.

I bought the book in an effort to try and help myself gain more clarity, motivation and direction in my life. Having recently felt abnormally tired, low in motivation and irritable some of the time I felt that perhaps tapping into many of the things that are proven to make a difference might be the way to go.Continue Reading

Sharing Appreciations

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The idea is simple but powerful – take a moment to think of something you appreciate about someone in your life – a partner, spouse, friend, child, teacher, headmaster etc.

This appreciation could be something that drew you to that person originally or perhaps it is something you’ve come to know, love, admire or appreciate about them over the time you have known them.  It does not matter whether it is something big or small but just something they do (or something about them as a person) that brings you a good feeling.

Perhaps pause and take a moment to think that appreciation you’d like to share.  Then share the appreciation when the moment is ‘right’ and the other person will be able to hear you. Share it with feeling and show a little vulnerability for a bit of spice. Then see what happens!

Putting your appreciations into words

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Appreciations

This quote sums it up! Appreciations can really make a huge difference to others, relationships and oneself. Its the action of verbalising the appreciation that is necessary. Relationship counselling in Manchester can significantly improve your relationship.

Try It! Go on…share something your appreciate about your friend, partner, spouse, neighbour, family member etc.

Remember what it feels like to be appreciated! Of course you do. Feels good. So make someone in your life’s day and put something you appreciate about them into words.Continue Reading

Its Not about The Nail – A lesson in listening!

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Good communication !

A real classic short humorous video that reminds us about the value of listening and good communication.

We very quickly go into problem solving mode but this short funny video reminds us about how much more valuable listening can be to others rather than problem solving.

Good communication skills can be learnt. The Imago Dialogue process is one of the best ways I know to really listen, validate and empathise with another person. See more about Imago Relationship Therapy at Relationship Counselling Manchester as well as  Imago Relationships International .Continue Reading

Power of Appreciations

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Relationship Reminders – Power of Appreciations

“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary”. Margaret Cousins

Negativity is toxic for any relationship.  In order for your partner and your relationship to grow and thrive, aim to reduce negativity (shaming, blaming, criticism, put downs, stone walling, sarcasm etc) by following these two suggestions:

  1. Share what you appreciate about each other. Put into words what you value, love and cherish about your partner. Perhaps something about your partner’s personality, a physical characteristic, a caring behaviour they have done for you or perhaps something they always do but is taken for granted.

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Gratitude

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The definition of Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.
Bringing gratitude into daily life can significantly enhance ones level of happiness, physical well being and relationships.

Read more about gratitude and some good articles:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/gratitude

Happy Birthday, Harville!

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Someone once said, “A good teacher can inspire hope,
ignite the imagination, and instill a love of learning.”

Harville Hendrix, founder of Imago Relationship Therapy, is more than a good teacher. He is passionate, devoted, and above all, committed to the cause. With all that he has done
for Imago Relationship International, we would like to commemorate him with this tribute in honor of his 80th birthday.

Happy Birthday, Harville!

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