As you probably know, negativity is corrosive to any relationship.
Negativity is any transaction your partner experiences as a ‘put down’.
If they say it was negative, then trust that for whatever reason it was negative! Don’t try and explain your actions but listen to what their experience is.
Examples of negativity include: tone of voice, an eye roll, silence, criticism, shame, blame, deflection, disempowering, accusations, and contempt.
Negativity is any interaction that is experienced as devaluing or negating.
Achieving and maintaining a ‘zero negativity state’ is essential in a Conscious Couple Relationship.
I invite you to take the Zero Negativity Challenge! This means aiming for as little negativity in your relationship as possible.
It may not be possible all the time, but I invite you to get a taste of it by practising Zero Negativity for at least the rest of this day (or perhaps for the rest of this week)!
For a FREE guide by the creators of the ‘Zero Negativity’ concept, click here
Make this step for yourself and your partner…remove as much blame, criticism, and shame from your relationship as possible.
If either of you should experience an ‘ouch’ moment (anything negative) then try to restore connection as soon as possible by using healthy communication (called Imago Dialogue) showing curiosity about what has happened.
Wishing you a toxic-free relationship space filled with as much positivity and connection as possible.