Relationships

It is real work to be a good listener. Most of us don’t know what true deep listening is about. It’s called Generative Listening. Just knowing what Generative Listening can give you a new perspective about what is possible in your life and relationships. There are Four Levels of Listening: Level 1: Habitual Listening where we are unable to hear anything that doesn’t agree with…

Six & Nine are Equal!

I can respect different opinions; because everybody has a story. Richa Chadha This is a wonderful gift we offer the other person…hearing them and respecting their opinion. ‘See’ you again in a couple of weeks…I plan to send something short and sweet fortnightly. Gary Janit I offer confidential individual psychotherapy & CBT as well…

The word ‘Diet’ makes me sick

Diets tend not to work in the long term (as you may have personally discovered) and in actual fact can be blamed for weight gain, low self-esteem, sadness and many more negatives. How about the words, ‘Eating Plan for Life’…doesn’t that already sound better? Ahh, an eating plan that is sustainable and manageable for the…

Relationship Problems

The couples struggle is a common problem One of the most common enquiries I get is for couples counselling. It would appear that anxiety and relationship problems are affecting so many lives. These are the two problems that tend to show up most in my therapy office. This brief article will highlight some of the…

Online couple therapy

This week is Marriage Week in the UK! Service your car? Why not service your relationship? Online couple therapy is that yearly service. Did you even know that there was such a thing as marriage week? I didn’t and found out by accident. I’m super excited to know that there is such a concept. Let…

Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 3: Closing Exits (don’t leave it too late)

Knowing that it is normal to experience hurt, pain & frustrations (the power struggle phase) in relationships, don’t just leave it but seek help early to be able to experience real love again. Last time we learnt that following the ‘honeymoon phase’ (phase 1) couples will encounter the ‘power struggle’ (phase 2). This is normal…

Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 2: Frustrations are normal!

DREAM RELATIONSHIPS Conflict, frustrations and differences in your relationship are normal! You are in stage two. Stay with them, listen, validate and feel more connected through them. Following the ‘honeymoon phase’ (phase 1) all couples will encounter the ‘power struggle’ (phase 2). This is normal and not a sign that anything is wrong. There is…

Relationship-Enhancing Idea # 1: The Power of Appreciation

DREAM RELATIONSHIPS Relationship-Enhancing Ideas with Gary Janit “In any relationship that matters to you, give praise and appreciation daily. Noticing and appreciating the good in others enhances the connection between you and creates a healthy relationship space”. Putting your appreciations of your spouse or partner into words can transform your relationship and literally save your marriage…

Frustrated in your relationship? Arguing more? Feeling let down?

You are probably in phase two and that is normal! What happened to my wonderful romantic relationship? What are we not getting on anymore? There is a reason for why there are more frustrations, hurt and pain in your relationship now… Relationships typically go through a number of phases. We all know about the ‘honeymoon…

Benefits of commitment in your relationship

“Couples in conscious relationships recognise that the committed partnership is a remarkable structure for healing and growth. As partners excavate the past and learn about one another – their unmet needs and lifelong desires, vulnerabilities, wounds, strengths and resources – they can begin to work cooperatively to bring their unconscious directives into consciousness” (Imago International…

A must watch – The Power of Connection

This will change the way you view life and the way you view your relationships. Hedy Schleifer is a master Imago couple therapist who beautifully talks about the invisible ‘sacred space’ that exists between couples. If only we could all live according these ideas…honouring each other, respecting difference and living with an open heart. …

Sharing Appreciations

The idea is simple but powerful – take a moment to think of something you appreciate about someone in your life – a partner, spouse, friend, child, teacher, headmaster etc. This appreciation could be something that drew you to that person originally or perhaps it is something you’ve come to know, love, admire or appreciate…

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