As mentioned previously, listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely.
A great question to ask your partner or spouse when you are listening, is ‘Is there more?’…and of course to really mean it!
A very simple three-word question that shows you are interested and happy to listen to whatever else your other half would like to share.
A suggestion when listening…
- Try listening with an open heart
- Try listening without judgement
- Try listening without planning your response
- Try listening to completely understand the other
- Try asking ‘Is there more?’ when the other person has finished speaking
Try it out with the people in your life!
See what happens!
The next fortnightly 1-minute Relationship snippet (which arrives every 2nd Wednesday morning) will focus on how to talk so you will be heard!
Gary Janit
I offer confidential individual psychotherapy & CBT as well as Imago Relationship Therapy in Manchester.
I am registered and accredited with the following professional organisations, abiding by their ethical codes:
BABCP (British Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Psychotherapies), UKCP (UK Council for Psychotherapy), HCPC (Health & Care Professions Council) as well being a graduate member of the BPS (British Psychological Society).
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