Gary Janit, Author at CBT Therapy Manchester

You are Living with an Iceberg

Your spouse or partner is an iceberg! This does not mean that they are cold and unfeeling! Rather it refers to the fact that just as you only see 1/10th of an iceberg above the water, so too when looking at another human being, you only see the surface level. Just like there is so much more…

The Tortoise and the Hare…How to Succeed?

Most of us remember the famous childhood story of the tortoise and the hare where the tortoise continues to move very slowly but without stopping and finally it wins the race. The moral lesson of the story is that you can be more successful by doing things slowly and steadily rather than by acting quickly and carelessly. What Can…

How do you respond to rain? The Power of Acceptance

It rains a lot in Manchester, where I live. There are two choices about how to respond and react when it is raining: Option 1 would be the following thoughts: “I don’t like rain. I wish it was not raining and then my day would be better! My day is now ruined. It is so horrible this long…

The Story I Tell Myself

“He obviously does not care about me because if he did then he would contact me more often during the day”. This, or something similar, is a common frustration I may hear in my therapy office when working with a couple. At this point, I may pause the couple and invite the one sharing to rephrase that…

The Magic Of Gratitude

A book came out a few years ago, called ‘The Magic’ and it was all about Gratitude… …specifically, how Gratitude can have a magical effect on one’s life! If there is an opposite of gratitude, it might be complaining and negativity which as we all know, makes us feel worse. Gratitude is an essential mindset for general…

What do you think?

What do you think of my new logo? Designed by myself, my wife and my daughters. It captures everything that I am passionate about…Whole-Person, Balanced, Holistic Living. When balance is achieved (as much as possible) in all four areas (puzzle pieces), then it allows our innate well-being to rise to the surface. Whole-Person Well-Being: This is the overall sense of…

Detox Your Relationship – The Zero Negativity Challenge

As you probably know, negativity is corrosive to any relationship. Negativity is any transaction your partner experiences as a ‘put down’. If they say it was negative, then trust that for whatever reason it was negative! Don’t try and explain your actions but listen to what their experience is. Examples of negativity include: tone of voice, an eye roll, silence,…

The Awesome Power of Affirmations

Guess what…we use affirmations all the time… We are constantly thinking and telling ourselves a story… Much of our thinking is automatic and unfortunately quite negative…worries, planning, rumination, dwelling and self-critical thinking. Given that thoughts are powerful, why not take a little time to focus on how you would like life to be. Hence…Affirmations. Daily affirmations…

The Best Medicine… Lifestyle

What is the best medicine? Many believe it is a good simple healthy balanced lifestyle! If you get this right, then many physical and emotional difficulties are minimised! In fact, with most of my clients, before we even begin focusing on the specific problem they have, we make sure to do as much as possible to…

Are you a Tiger or a Tortoise

In most couple relationships, there is often a tiger and a tortoise! Very rarely do I come across two tortoises but on occasion, there may be two tigers. The partner who is ‘tiger-like’ tends to be the louder, noisier one who will get angry, shout, scream, nag, cling and blame when feeling hurt or upset. The partner who is…

Diet Mentality Doesn’t Work…But This Does

Where is your focus? Diet Mentality vs Health Mentality Unfortunately for many people who struggle with maintaining a healthy balanced weight, the focus is on dieting, losing weight & looking better. This can cause a lifetime of underlying dissatisfaction, anxiety, low mood and low self-esteem. Many people with this ‘Diet Mentality’, focus most of their attention…

Don’t Give Up

Much can be learnt from Thomas Edison, whose birthday it is today… We learn about never giving up and that ‘failure’ is part of the normal journey towards success. Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was “too stupid to learn anything.” He was fired from his first two jobs for being “non-productive.” As an inventor, Edison made 1,000…

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Gary Janit

CBT Therapy Manchester

CBT
Therapy
Manchester