Gary Janit, Author at CBT Therapy Manchester

Is There More?

As mentioned previously, listening is an art and can benefit your relationship connection immensely. A great question to ask your partner or spouse when you are listening, is ‘Is there more?’…and of course to really mean it! A very simple three-word question that shows you are interested and happy to listen to whatever else your other half would like to…

Growth Mindset

I chose to see my struggle with health and being a balanced healthy weight as an opportunity for growth and healing. So instead of looking at my situation as ‘bad’, I rather chose to look at my struggle as a wonderful opportunity as well as a ‘wake-up’ call. Handled correctly with the right mindset and…

Mindful or Mindless Eating?

Most of us tend to go about much of our lives on automatic pilot. This is a challenge for most human beings to live as conscious a life as possible…living with as much awareness & presence as possible. This lack of awareness also applies to how we manage our health, well-being as well as our relationship to…

The Wizard of Oz – Lessons for Life

Remember the story of ‘The Wizard of Oz’… After a tornado hurls through Kansas, Dorothy and her dog, Toto, are swept away from their home to the colourful and vibrant Land of Oz. To find their way back home, they must embark on a journey to the Emerald City, where the Wizard of Oz lives. On…

You are Living with an Iceberg

Your spouse or partner is an iceberg! This does not mean that they are cold and unfeeling! Rather it refers to the fact that just as you only see 1/10th of an iceberg above the water, so too when looking at another human being, you only see the surface level. Just like there is so much more…

The Tortoise and the Hare…How to Succeed?

Most of us remember the famous childhood story of the tortoise and the hare where the tortoise continues to move very slowly but without stopping and finally it wins the race. The moral lesson of the story is that you can be more successful by doing things slowly and steadily rather than by acting quickly and carelessly. What Can…

How do you respond to rain? The Power of Acceptance

It rains a lot in Manchester, where I live. There are two choices about how to respond and react when it is raining: Option 1 would be the following thoughts: “I don’t like rain. I wish it was not raining and then my day would be better! My day is now ruined. It is so horrible this long…

The Story I Tell Myself

“He obviously does not care about me because if he did then he would contact me more often during the day”. This, or something similar, is a common frustration I may hear in my therapy office when working with a couple. At this point, I may pause the couple and invite the one sharing to rephrase that…

The Magic Of Gratitude

A book came out a few years ago, called ‘The Magic’ and it was all about Gratitude… …specifically, how Gratitude can have a magical effect on one’s life! If there is an opposite of gratitude, it might be complaining and negativity which as we all know, makes us feel worse. Gratitude is an essential mindset for general…

What do you think?

What do you think of my new logo? Designed by myself, my wife and my daughters. It captures everything that I am passionate about…Whole-Person, Balanced, Holistic Living. When balance is achieved (as much as possible) in all four areas (puzzle pieces), then it allows our innate well-being to rise to the surface. Whole-Person Well-Being: This is the overall sense of…

Detox Your Relationship – The Zero Negativity Challenge

As you probably know, negativity is corrosive to any relationship. Negativity is any transaction your partner experiences as a ‘put down’. If they say it was negative, then trust that for whatever reason it was negative! Don’t try and explain your actions but listen to what their experience is. Examples of negativity include: tone of voice, an eye roll, silence,…

The Awesome Power of Affirmations

Guess what…we use affirmations all the time… We are constantly thinking and telling ourselves a story… Much of our thinking is automatic and unfortunately quite negative…worries, planning, rumination, dwelling and self-critical thinking. Given that thoughts are powerful, why not take a little time to focus on how you would like life to be. Hence…Affirmations. Daily affirmations…

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Gary Janit

CBT Therapy Manchester

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