I hope Valentine’s Day is a happy day for you (& your partner or spouse if you are in a relationship)…but for many individuals and couples, it may not be.
This is because…not everyone has a partner and even if you are in a relationship, it may not be as you wish it to be.
A few thoughts:
- It is normal for relationships to go through stages. The ‘Honeymoon Phase’ rarely lasts more than six months to 3 years. After this most couples encounter the very painful ‘Power Struggle’ Phase where there may be more arguments, withdrawal, less fun and feeling less connected to each other.
- This second phase is actually normal and the experience of most couples! So, if you are struggling in your relationship, it may be similar to what other couples are experiencing.
- Perhaps see the relationship struggle as an opportunity for growth. The struggle is part of everyone’s individual and couple journey and not necessarily a sign of a relationship that isn’t working.
- Do the work!!! All relationships can benefit from being worked on…if it is a good relationship, then make it great. If your relationship is struggling, then do the individual & couple ‘work’ to see if it can improve (most relationships can improve when one partner works on themselves and the relationship…better still is when both are doing the work).
So, perhaps use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to pause and reflect on your Relationship Health’. If you are in a relationship, then maybe use this day to…try to reconnect with your partner and work on yourself to be the best partner possible.
If it helps, I have written this short e-article: ‘10 Fast & Easy Ways To Improve Your Relationship Immediately’. Feel Free to download: Free Couple Giveaway – Grab it Now
Gary Janit
I offer confidential individual psychotherapy & CBT as well as Imago Relationship Therapy in Manchester.
I am registered and accredited with the following professional organisations, abiding by their ethical codes:
BABCP (British Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Psychotherapies), UKCP (UK Council for Psychotherapy), HCPC (Health & Care Professions Council) as well being a graduate member of the BPS (British Psychological Society).